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You are on the same team!

Everywhere you look there is evidence that the Fall Sports season is soon upon us. High school students are waking up early for practice.  Parents are at the sporting goods store buying shin guards and shoulder pads and coaches of every level are giving interviews extolling the merits of TEAMWORK! “Teamwork” is essential to the success of any athletic team, but it is equally important to our marriages.  Sometimes in our marriages, it feels like we are working against each other; therefore, we believe that it is essential that you [...]

By |2018-08-09T13:59:39-05:00August 9th, 2018|General, teamwork|2 Comments
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Graham Advice

Recently, we had the opportunity to watch a tape of the funeral service of the Rev. Billy Graham.  One of the speakers at the service shared a bit of advice that Dr. Graham had shared with him.  Dr. Graham said that most people want to talk about themselves and as a pastor, he would be tempted to share his personal stories.  Dr. Graham told him to share Jesus with people that he met, what Jesus said and what Jesus did; not the pastor’s personal experience. This advice isn’t always the [...]

By |2018-08-02T08:38:44-05:00July 31st, 2018|bible, General|3 Comments
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God gives grace for the moment, but not for our imagination

When we started our ministry to couples raising a child with special needs, our desire was to share truths or helpful ideas that we wished someone had shared with us when we were new to parenting. A lot of the concepts are similar to advice given to couples that are raising children without a disability, but we think a few are unique to us raising a child with a disability. One principle that really helped us, was to try to discipline ourselves to focus on the “here and now.” Although [...]

By |2018-07-26T05:39:44-05:00July 25th, 2018|General|3 Comments
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Going for the … Bronze?

One Bible verse that has been helpful to me, especially when I feel as though I am being tested or under fire is Job 23:10, “But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold”. I know that to become gold, something/someone has to go through a lot of heat. But honestly, sometimes I have to admit I want to say, “Lord, I think I’ve been tested enough. Alright Already!!! I think I’m OK with bronze; you can stop testing me [...]

By |2018-07-19T20:21:09-05:00July 19th, 2018|General, Harder|2 Comments
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The Venn Diagram that changed our marriage.

When we were first married, a pastor told us to “Try to See our Differences as God’s provision for balance in our marriage.” Honesty, this statement sounded more like wishful thinking or a fantasy statement, than real advice. Perhaps you are responding the same way. We wish we would have tried harder to see how this is true, because after 33 years of marriage, appreciating this fact, more than any other truth, has had a profound impact on our lives. We can almost hear the reaction to this statement through [...]

By |2018-07-12T13:16:56-05:00July 12th, 2018|General|Comments Off on The Venn Diagram that changed our marriage.
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Welcome to Our Special Marriage

Welcome to the first entry of OUR SPECIAL MARRIAGE! This site seeks to give couples who are facing the challenges of raising a child with special needs the tools, insights and most importantly, the hope to have a marriage that doesn’t just survive, but thrives.  We also anticipate that it will become a safe place for you to ask questions and hear from other couples. We have been married for 33 years and have 3 children. Our daughter Mary is 32 and considered multiply disabled and non-verbal. Our marriage was [...]

By |2018-08-05T06:55:54-05:00June 14th, 2018|General|4 Comments
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